Many say “Man-up”; I say “Woman-up” ;)

I had received a meeting request yesterday, seeing the subject, without much doubt, I had accepted. This morning I had walked into the meeting, halfway through I had realized that I was the only female in the room. From the speaker, to fellow colleagues – all males. Instantly it struck, what a male-dominated environment I work in.

Information Technology territory have always been known as the men’s domain(no pun intended)- and the kitchen? Oh we sure know the perception around this stereotype.

Who said I cannot wire up a PC together, paint my room and at the same time, make a meeean cheese samich?

Thinking back as to why was I the only female in the room has much to do with women in the workplace feeling less-confident, or like she doesn’t quite fit in. Come to think of it, in my career path, senior management consists of 80% males – therefore females may feel like they cannot relate to the seniors in a number of ways. We all are fighting the same battle – except that I fight for women to stand-up and lead themselves.

The 20% of females that are in the senior positions need to assist the others as a mentor or in whatever way, shape or form(Believe it or not, we have a shortage of this). She should be such that, other females can relate to her, gain confidence from her and in time, rule beside her. Way too many women are in competition with the rest, when, we should be standing together. As I am writing this, it’s shockingly questionable as to how many women have come to mind.

Luckily enough, I had 3 other females join my team, otherwise I would have been the only, with about 13 males. Bad? I think not. It’s my opportunity to show them that I have a purpose here too, my capabilities are no less equal to theirs. I can share my opinions and ideas and we can work together. Now with the other females beside me, I have back-up!

“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is a success.”


This post is dedicated to a song that’s oh so close to my heart! Ed Sheeran – Photograph.

I don’t know about you, but I learn so much from song lyrics – I actually start to feel what the singer feels and eventually what the writer felt – if they’re not the same person.

I might not be a in a long-distance relationship (yes, I am very fortunate), but the music – just so beautiful. The words are so inspiring. If you haven’t watched the official video to this song – you’re missing out! It’s nothing fancy at all, but I guess that’s what makes it soo much more beautiful. And is a +1 for me because I LOVE Babies ❤ .

I prefer real, over fancy – you would have picked this up from my post regarding the movie Away We Go.

Back to the song, Ed Sheeran just makes me think of my own relationship, appreciate it more, and essentially, makes me feel so lucky, grateful and well, in tough times(we all have these, don’t we?), it’s assuring.

Due to the immense amount of love I have for this song, I have it on repeat on a daily basis. Cannot get enough of it! Be sure to try it! Absorb the lyrics ❤

PS. Long distance relationships does not just mean different countries or across oceans – in my case, it’s just me at work, and my boyfriend working elsewhere. Can’t wait to go home to him! It’s an everyday struggle.

Ed Sheeran - Photograph

No ⛈, No 🌈 !

We ever so often have some grey clouds hanging above our heads, ready to explode. ⛈ We just wait patiently (mostly impatiently) for it to burst, our problems and obstacles appear all so quickly, we feel helpless. It will change our lives, destroy us and put us in some sort of misery – for the most part, that’s what we think. A position no-one wants to be in.

I know it’s hard to focus when something’s wrong. But the human mind is so powerful, we have the ability to control situations – but do we use it enough? Only you will know the answer to that. 

It’s so necessary for us to see things in a different light.☔ Did it ever occur to you that without dark clouds, we would never know what clear skies are? ⛅ Just like how without sadness:'(, we would never know what it means to be happy☺. Without obstacles, we would not learn lessons, we won’t be able to strengthen💪  our minds, bodies and souls. We need everything – bad or good☯. A little wave, in the ocean does not disrupt the sea, so why should we allow petty problems to disrupt our lives.

The right time is none other than…

I have watched a 2009 movie, Away We Go – boy it’s beautiful. It’s realistic, raw like a new born cub in the midst of the jungle, left to fend for itself. I loved it. It has planted so many distinctive seeds of thoughts in my head. I didn’t want it to end. 

I recognise so many people in this life, whom yearn to get their career on par, fill in the top jobs, buy their house, and basically secure themselves before they bring a child into this world and start a family. To be honest, sometimes I’m one of them. To be blunt, I seldomly envisage that that time may never come.

Other times, part of me just wants to live life. I want to deal with the obstacles as they come. I want to make the most of every moment. I don’t want to have to worry about what’s going to happen, or what’s happened. I want to focus on what’s happening. 

Some may think that I’m being irresponsible or irrational, but quite frankly, I’m being real. Life is way too short to firstly worry about what others think and secondly, to stress about what’s going to happen. 

I’d known people whom had just graduated with their masters/honours, and a few weeks later, cease to exist. What life is that? Don’t you think they worked their butts off for that qualification? Imagine the impatience to wrap-up the final exam… to complete that task , cross that bridge, graduate. And boom – we are sobbing at their last rites… all that for what? For who?
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for working hard, saving, securing your future, being responsible, prioritizing along with others. 

Intermittently, we need to just lay back, release the rope we hold climbing onto the future, take note of what’s beneath our nose, infront of the eyes… and just live that moment. Just live. Create the moment. 

The right time is none other than Now



never feel lonely if I’ve got a book – they’re like old friends. Even if you’re not reading them over and over again, you know they are there. And they’re part of your history. They sort of tell a story about your journey through life.

-Emilia Fox

The anchor

Sometimes in life, we depend on others for stability and confidence without realising that you know yourself best. You can give yourself the best advice, therapy, treatment and time. All you need to do is pay attention to yourself. Listen to the inner voice. It knows best. It works wonders. I think it’s about time we become our own anchors.